Violet C Pergel MSW offers a number of different Separation and Divorce Services such as Separation and Divorce Advice, Divorce Coaching, Child Specialist, Mediated Separation Divorce Agreements, Parenting Plans Agreements, Post Divorce Mediation, Parent Coordination, Practice Note 7 Interventions, and Parenting after Separation or Divorce.

Violet has been helping children, teens, adults and families for 19 years. She has extensive experience working with people in conflict and helping people to solve their own problems.

Her qualifications include:

  • Registered Clinical Social Worker
  • Registered Family Mediator (with specialities in Parenting; Separation and Divorce)
  • Registered Parent Coordinator and Arbitrator
  • Chartered Mediator

For more information about Violet, please see Her Therapist Profile page

Separation and Divorce Advice:

– Should I fix or End the relationship?

– What are my options available to me in terms of separation and divorce

Call 403-580-6990 Today for an appointment!

For more information on Services offered at Violet C Pergel MSW, please click on link Overview of Services

Divorce Coaching 

– Assists individuals in the divorce process by providing individuals with the tools they need to be able to have their needs met, and to deal with  effectively with the stress associated with divorce.

– Generally, the divorce process is very difficult for people due to the heighten state of emotions, stress and conflict associated with divorce.

– Individuals undergoing divorce need a number of skills including:  communication skills, assertiveness skills,  stress management skills,  self-sooth (or being am to comfort themselves) skills, and manage their emotions and behaviors.

Child Specialist

An independent neutral mental health professions who works with children to identify the children’s needs, concerns, and interests as well as helping the children to cope with the impact of their parent’s separation/divorce. The information gathered from the children by the child specialist is conveyed to both parents in order to help the parents come up with a parenting plan that meets their child(ren)’s needs.

Individual Pre-Mediation/Parent Coordination Information Sessions

If you are unsure whether Mediation or Parent Coordination is the right service for you, please call Violet at (403)580-6990 for an individual Pre-Mediation/ Parent Coordination Information Session.

Mediation

  • Separation and Divorce Agreement
    1. How to split up amicably.
    2. Possession of other belongings
    3. Division of Debts, and Assets and Pension Plans
    4. Spousal support (how much and for what duration)
    5. Matrimonial property division (anything else, inheritances, etc)
    6. Children Issues
    7. Parenting Plans and Parenting Issues
    8. Access (how and under what circumstances the children will spend with each parent)
    9. Child Support (how much and for what duration)
    10. Contact with Children
    11. Guardianship
    12. Child Support
    13. Post-Divorce Issues
    14. Other (example, visitation of other relations)
  • Parenting Plans
  • Post Divorce Conflicts

For for Information on Mediation, please click Mediation

Post Separation Divorce Services

1) Parent Coordinator 

is a service available to parents to help implement their parenting plan (agreement or court order) .

PC have three major roles:

– Educate and Coach parents
– Mediate parental conflicts,
– Arbitrate or make decisions under the Alberta Arbitration Act when parents can’t resolve the dispute themselves.

For more information on PC, please click on link Parent Coordination,

2) Moving on after Separation/Divorce

– Sometimes it is  difficulty moving on after the end of the relationship. If you need help to disengage from the relationship, and start their new life without their partner, then some therapy might be what you need.

3) Parenting After Separation/Divorce

– Need help learning how to parent your children after the separation/divorce

– Not sure how to leave your kids out out of the conflict

– Need to develop a new type of relationship with your ex

Then this type of therapy is what you need>

4) Practice Note 7 Interventions (Court ordered)

This business provides Practice Note 7  Therapeutic Interventions/ Mediation and Parent Coordination Services  to Separated and Divorcing Families where decisions concerning children are before the court where:

– the families are experiencing a state of high conflict

– the intervention of the Court is required

– the court requires the assistance of Parenting Experts

Note: This Business does not conduct any Practice Note 8 Interventions: Parenting Time and Parenting Responsibilities Assessments (formerly known as Custody Assessments or Bilateral Assessments).

 

 

Separation and Divorce Links

 What Happens Next:? Information for Kids about Separation and Divorce 
provides genral information to children about family law, the processes that praents go through, and normlaizes childrne’s emotional response to divorce of parents

Families Change Guides on helping children and youth learn and cope with divorce and separation. Also includes information and skills to help parents coe with parenting after separation.

Activities for Helping Children Deal with Divorce : Activities for helping children cope with divorce.

Co-Parenting Communication Guide (PDF)
Arizona Chapter of AFCC
Tools, tips and good practices for co-parents

Tears : A powerful 5 minute video showing what parents can do to children during their break-up.

 Spousal Support: Information on Spousal Support.

Alberta Family Law Information on Alberta Family Law and where to go and get information

Parenting Time for Children under Family Law Act (Alberta) – Information about the Alberta Family Law Act as it applies to Parenting.

Sesame Street
Little Children, Big Challenges: Divorce
Resources for parents and children ages 2-8

UpToParents.org
Freedom 22 Foundation
An interactive website for separating and divorcing parents

Get more information about separation and divorce on MY LINK PAGE

Pamphlets for Parents (From AFCC)

 

Books on Separation and Divorce (may be available at your library)

 

  • Brownstone, H. (2009) Tug of War.
  • Blau, M. (2002). Families Apart: Ten Keys to Successful Co-Parenting.
  • Cochrane, M. (2006) Surviving Your Divorce. John Wiley & Sons.
  • Emery, R. (2004). The Truth about Children and Divorce.
  • Hannibal, Mary-Ellen. (2007) Good Parenting Through Your Divorce: The Essential Guidebook to Helping Your Children Adjust and Thrive. Marlow and Company.
  • Health Canada.(2001). Because Life Goes On
  • Jones-Soderman, Jill. (2006) How to Talk to your Children about Divorce. Family Mediation Center Publishing Co.
  • LaCrosse, R. & Coates, C. (2003). Learning from Divorce: How to Take Responsibility, Stop the Blame, and Move On.
  • Law Courts Education Society and the British Columbia Ministry of Attorney General. (2007). Parenting After Separation for Your Child’s Future: A Handbook for Parents.
  • Legal Services Society. (2008) Living Together or Living Apart – Common law relationships, marriage, separation, and divorce. Legal Services Society, BC.
  • Long, N. & Forehand, R. (2002). Making Divorce Easier on Your Child: 50 Effective Ways to Help Children Adjust.
  • McDonough, H. & Bartha, C. (1999). Putting Children First: A Guide for Parents Breaking Up.
  • Margulies, S. (2001). Getting Divorced without Ruining Your Life.
  • Moskovitch, D. (2007). The Smart Divorce.
  • Oberlin, L .(2005). Surviving Separation and Divorce.
  • Teyber, E. (2001). Helping Children Cope with Divorce.

 

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